The Two Most Dangerous Words in the English Language
Or so claims the tyrannical orchestra conductor played by J.K. Simmons in last year’s critically acclaimed movie, Whiplash.
Encouragement that isn’t genuine is damaging to both giver and receiver. The receiver gets at best, a false sense of accomplishment, and at worst, the sting of being patronized.
And the giver? They exchange candor for cowardice, eroding their own credibility.
So what are we to do? Throw a symbol at the head of every young Charlie Parker?
If you want a relationship with the person, you’ll need to be willing to be a teacher. You’ll need to invest the time to hold the person accountable, share clear standards of success and then coach them through the steps to deliver on your expectation.
If they aren’t willing to be a student, then you know where you stand. And if you aren’t willing to take the time to be a teacher, then you have no one else to blame.